HEARTBREAK. We have all been there at some point in our lives. You lose the person you thought would be the love of your life. They give you the dreaded words “I need space” or “I need something more” That tends to crush your very being in half. You don’t want to eat sleep or in some cases live. Studies show that heartbreak isn’t just bad for your emotional
According to a Heart Foundation study of the physical changes suffered immediately after a profound loss, grieving people were at significantly higher risk of heart problems, said lead researcher Thomas Buckley.
“We found higher blood pressure, increased heart rate and changes to immune system and clotting that would increase the risk of heart attack,” Buckley said.
Of the 160 people studied, half were mourning the loss of a partner or child, and their risk of heart attack increased six-fold, he said.
The risk, which was evident in people as young as 30, reduced after six months and levelled out after two years, he added.
A sudden flood of stress hormones is believed to be behind the grief-induced heartache, a condition that earlier studies have found is more likely to affect women.
(c) 2009 AFP
Heart break also leads to hypertension, abdominal obesity, high blood sugar, and depression. Not to mention the mental anguish that comes. Now your probably reading this thinking “okay you are giving me the facts but what about a solution?”. For one THERE IS NO MAGIC CURE FOR HEARTBREAK! There’s nothing you can buy,nothing you can take that will ease your pain. Yet I want to stress that heartbreak, like any pain, can be temporary.
I want you to first give yourself time to have a pity party. Yes I am giving you time to cry,yell, ask why me, cry some more, mope around etc. Now when I say time I mean give yourself a time limit of your grief. It can be as short as two weeks or as long as 2 months depending on how long the relationship was. Mark an exact date to end your pity party. Once that date comes STOP IT! No longer playing the blame game, no longer going to their facebook trying to analyze their statuses(yeah I know you are), no longer listening to songs that remind you of them, no longer holding on to the past! Now its the healing process. Usually in a relationship we tend to lose ourselves so now its time to find YOU again. I know its tempting to jump into the first open arms or to get with the first person who pays you some attention, but DO NOT DO THE REBOUND RELATIONSHIP..rebound sex maybe..but to get with the first person who makes you smile after a breakup will be disastrous! Your extremely vulnerable right now and you will be too blinded by your emotions to see what you’re getting into. This time is for you to focus on you until you are at a point where emotionally your stable and level-headed.
During this time you stay optimistic with positive affirmations, books , and feeding your spiritual side. Also stay around positive people. Those friends that want to do nothing but talk about your ex in a negative light…avoid them. Your onto something better and that’s dealing with YOU! Start working out and taking better care of your body. A person who loves themselves will always take care of themselves. Try some new things in life. Take a class or enroll in school,Talk to people you wouldn’t normally speak to, step out of your comfort zone. During this time you will either regress into someone who is bitter and jaded, or you can progress into someone better than you could have been while in your relationship. The healing process will take time depending on what happen within the relationship. Most importantly learn from the situation and understand your mistakes and the mistakes of your lover so you won’t make those same mistakes again. Love is a hard emotion to just “turn off” so know that you may still have feelings for that person, but that isn’t a bad thing. You don’t have to hate the person who left you move on. In fact I don’t recommend it. What good does it do you to hate them? Does it bring them back to you? Let me guess you being upset and angry will make them feel sorry for doing you wrong? CHILE PLEASE( yes I chad ochocinco’d you) all that’s going to happen is that anger will spill over into over areas of your life. Forgive,love,and get your life!
When it comes to losing love, you must and will live through it but don’t have to live in it. A breakup,divorce, or loss is a situation that you went through it doesn’t define you. Your sexy,charming, beautiful, funny,incredible, charismatic, and YOU DESERVE LOVE!!! never think that because this person walked out of your life, that there isn’t some waiting and wanting to get in. Baby you’re a firework! Just because your fire is dimmed doesn’t mean that you won’t light up the sky again. Believe me someone will come along and ignite your flame. This pain you feel right now will not last forever…I repeat..THIS PAIN YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW WILL NOT LAST FOREVER! You will love again.