You Don’t Want A Marriage, You Want A Wedding! The Kim Kardashian Syndrome

Little girls are taught through fairy tales and fables what love is supposed to be. We are told that a prince charming will come riding on a white horse, take us away from being held captive by an evil witch or warlock, and whisk us into a happily ever after. So no wonder many girls grow into women with these same ideas. Women want the tall, dark,and handsome sensitive bad boy with a heart of gold to realize that he can’t live without you,change his bad boy ways, buy you the 5 carat diamond and give you the royal wedding treatment. Many women are working their ass off to get a ring and wedding that they forget what once the wedding is over…they have to be MARRIED!

Kim Kardashian filed for divorce from her husband Kris Humphries after 72 days of marriage. The couple wed in a lavish HUGE celebrity filled wedding on August 20. The wedding was straight out of a Disney movie. The budget was straight out of an US debt report. The wedding cost over 10 million dollars at a time when most people (nikki included) are trying to make a dollar out of 15 cent. Most if not all of the cost was taken care of by advertisers cashing in on the kardashian craze. Now 72 days later she will be heading back down an aisle…a courtroom aisle as she kicks Kris to the single again curb.

Is this what marriage is? People protest over same-sex couples getting hitched, yet we can let a reality TV star put on a spectacle of a show, claim its all for love, and we applaud that?  In her official statement she claims it didn’t turn out the way she hoped. She has been married before so what where you expecting? I believe she wanted the wedding. Kim Kardashian wanted to show the world..and reggie bush..that she could get the dream that she so wanted. She has the smell of desperation all over her when it comes to marriage. She needs that validation that she is a good woman who any man should worship. Especially after having a sex tape seen by thousands, you want to gain some level of womanly respect back. And nothing says I’m a respectful woman like being a wife.(insert sarcasm) She planned this big ass wedding thinking this man will finally validate her. She wanted the wedding day high to last for the duration of the marriage. Sorry but to keep that feeling your going to have to get married everyday. Once the guest leave, and the open bar is gone its you and your spouse. Two individuals making a life together. Once you are married it’s no longer about you and your show, your business, and your family. It’s about only you two.I don’t see her being a selfless woman. There’s nothing wrong with being a little selfish when you are single, but in marriage that word has no place.

There are so many women who suffer from Kim Kardashian Syndrome. They put more effort in the guest list and seating chart than they do in the actual relationship. They love the “look at me” value of a wedding. They want to feel like a princess even if for a day. The reality is you should be more excited about having this man be your rock instead of the rock he puts on your finger. Be ecstatic about the committment you two are making. Take your vows seriously whether you say them in front of celebrities or a judge in a chamber. Marriage is much more than a wedding. Marriage is a firm committment to love, honor,and obey the person who makes your life better by being alive. It shouldn’t matter how much you spend or the color of the flowers. What matters is looking forward to a lifetime of joy and yes pain with your partner. Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever want to do. Marriage isn’t 72 days nor 100 years. True marriage, from a place of unconditional love is forever. That type of love is priceless.