Ask Nikki True- Suffering From Low Sexual Self Esteem

One of my True Loves is having low self esteem in the bedroom.

Ok so here I go..I am the worst when it comes to opening up In the bedroom the guy
that I am with wants me to talk to him during sex and I cannot bring myself to do it I
am afraid I will not know what to say or that he may laugh @ me..He has had way more
experience in the bedroom than I have and that bothers me I can even let him see me
naked I must have all the lights off because I am afraid of what he will think. I am
not a skinny girl and once again I think he will talk about me for the way I look or
laugh at me..so I am coming to you for advice on what I should do..Thank you

Sweet girl let me start by saying I get this type of question a lot from women so you’re not alone. We see images in videos, magazines, and movies and think we should look exactly like a Megan Fox or Buffie The Body! Here is a secret..outside of photoshop those women don’t even look like that so don’t look to them for what sexy is supposed to be! You being body conscience is more about you than it is him. I can give you tricks to make him happy but this problem is deeper than sex. You are suffering from low self-esteem and I’m pretty sure it’s not just in the bedroom. You won’t be able to fully please him until you are pleased with yourself. the sexiest thing anyone  male or female can wear is confidence! First thing you must do is beginning to love you and your body!

I want you to stand in front of a mirror by yourself right after you get out of the shower. Look directly into your eyes and start to admire your body. I say admire because what I don’t want you to do is pick yourself apart, but instead look at all the sexiest that comes from you. EVERY WOMAN HAS SOMETHING SEXY ABOUT HER! Find what your sexy is! It could be your curves, maybe it’s your legs and thighs, maybe its your breast but you have something. I believe in positive affirmations or sayings that you repeat to yourself and recommend you say the following one’s to help build your sexual self-esteem

1. My body is perfection. I excite my lover every day
2. I am the embodiment of sexual joy
3. I am sexy in every way and any man would love to be intimate with me
4. Damn I’m fuckable(my personal favorite)

Pick one of these to say while touching and staring at your body each day and you will start to see a change in how you view yourself sexually. You also stated that he has more sexual experience than you do and that intimidates you. Honey the past is just that the past! He is with you now and that’s all that matters. When he is in that bedroom with you only think about you and him. Don’t wonder about if your better or worse than anyone he has already been with because they don’t matter. If he is more experienced ask him to teach you some things that he likes so you can please him to the highest level. Use his knowledge in your favor. There is a reason that he is with you and I’m sure that includes that he finds you sexy. Don’t assume or put your worries on him. He probably want’s to see you naked and have more of you. If talking sexy isn’t your forte then start with some beginners dirty talk. In my blog Talk Dirty To Me I give a crash course on the dirty language of love so check it out. Bottom line is start to relax and not think some much. Its sex not rocket science sweetie. Know that you are beautiful and that when you are in the bed with your man you are a sex goddess who is capable of making him weak with your sex! Start loving yourself  outside of the bed and watch the magic truly happen.

Kinky Kisses
Nikki True