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The bond between a boy and his mom is one that is strong and unbreakable. A mother loves and nurtures her son from birth until he is man enough to go alone into the world and find someone to marry and love. Yet some mothers and sons never get to the “move on” part and they stay tied at the hip to their mother. Mama’s Boys can seem like you are dating not only him but his mamma too, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Does your man have a mom who can’t seem to let go? Here are some suggestions to turn him from a mama’s boy to being your man.
- Sit down and talk to him about involving less of his mother in his life. This doesn’t mean taking her out the equation because that will never happen. Instead ask him to consult with you about matters that deal with only you two first instead of involving his mother in things. When you are in a relationship your partner should be the first person to know what may be going on with you or problems within the home.
- Don’t resort to any type of bad mouthing or name calling of his mother. She may be a mix of Kris Jenner, Mommy Dearest, and Mama Dee but to a mama’s boy she will always be MOM! The minute you start talking trash about his mother you will be out the door.
- Never try to replace his mother. You are his wife or girlfriend. As his partner it is your job to have his best interest at heart, but it’s not your job to baby him or smother him. Leave the nagging and over protective behavior to his mom.
- Only confront the mother as a last-ditch effort. Confronting his mother without talking to your mama’s boy will cause a huge problem if it goes bad. Especially if his mom says that you were not pleasant or nice to her. Only do this If after you have talked to your man and there are still problems of his mom keeping the apron strings extra tight. When you do have that heart to heart talk with his mama remember what I told you in suggestion 2.
If after you have done all of these things and he still is hanging at his mom’s leg then it may be time to say goodbye to your mama’s boy. No woman in a relationship should have to put up with being second best even to your partners mother. We all must leave the nest and they both need to embrace that. If all else fails try to hook mom up with someone so she can have her own man and let you have your mama’s boy all to yourself.