In today’s TMZ society it can become easy to get burned out on celebrities and who they are hunching on this week. In fact I honestly lose track and don’t care. But I will say that one couple has managed to tug at my kinky little heartstrings and that couple is Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose. I know you will give me a BITCH IS YOU CRAZY FACE, but they are a great role model for couples.
Amber Rose was the muse for mega rapper Kanye West. In my opinion she was basically a hanger with a nice ass. She never did interviews,never talked, but she looked fantastic doing it. I never felt any love between Kanye or Amber but dammit I could look at them all day. When the relationship ended many people wrote her off and thought she would return back to her Philly roots and do strip club appearances. How could she find love after being with KANYE WEST? Folks weren’t thinking love but money. How can you find all that money again when you have been with KANYE WEST?
Wiz Khalifa was a burgeoning new rapper from Pittsburgh who was getting a great buzz with a song called Black And Yellow. He had a small fling with the big chin bitch from The Bad Girls Club yet that fell through. Now he could have easily gotten hooked into the rapper dates other big chin chicks but he took a turn for the better when he met Amber Rose. Wiz wasn’t rolling in dough or charting jet planes but he has a charming personality and is a down to earth guy which is sexy. Now you would think on their first date they would go to somewhere 5 star but that was not the case. Wiz describes their first dinner
It was when I was moving out to L.A. and she had actually already lived there at the time and we lived in Hollywood. We were trying to find a nice little spot to get something to eat- something low key.
We just went to Mel’s diner, sat down, got some turkey burgers and some strawberry lemonade … and that was our first date.
Now they are engaged, expecting their first child, and happier than ever as a couple. Everytime I see them together I feel so much love coming from them. Amber doesn’t care about his hits or dollars, when she speaks about him she only speaks highly of him. She gushes about him being her baby. Even when more nude pictures of her very pretty pooni leaked it made them stronger and he loved her through it. Although we may not have nude pictures leak you still want someone to love you through your rough times. Wiz couldn’t be happier. I love how in an industry where rappers are supposed to be playboys, he goes totally against it and only has eyes for his rose. When Kanye was going on stages and talking crazy about her Wiz kept his cool although he had reasons to fly out and kick his ass. We all can learn a little something from this cute little couple. Love doesn’t equal a dollar sign or status. Love isn’t trips around the world. Love can be as simple as a burger and shake. Love equals respect and falling in love with the same person many times.
For as long as I could remember I was told about the rules of marriage. According to modern society marriage is to be a monogamous, to be between a man and a woman, and to be for life. Yet if we let scientist tell it monogamy is against human nature. An article from The Huffington Post suggest that monogamy is not meant to be what we live by:
Regardless of labels, a central theme seems to be emerging in contemporary sexuality research:monogamy is not natural. This is not a moral opinion. This statement does not imply that monogamy is or is not somehow healthy or right for human culture or individual happiness. It also does not imply that monogamy is an unattainable goal for those striving to attain it. It simply means that monogamy does not seem to fit well within the natural landscape, especially that of our evolutionary predecessors.
Monogamy isn’t the only option when it comes to being in a relationship or marriage. While I don’t want you to now use this as an excuse to cheat, I do want you to keep in mind there are many ways to have a marriage and it work. Swingers were wife swapping way before NBC made it a family friendly show. The North American Swingers Club Association describes swinging as:
Swingers don’t broadcast their lifestyle out of fear of social criticism. The average age for a swinging couple is 38 and have been married for 7 years or more. Many have said this lifestyle has saved their marriage from divorce.
If you believe in loving more than one person maybe you are Polyamorous. The Polyamory Society defines Polyamory as
Polyamory is the nonpossessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultanously. Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time
Polyamory let’s you have love in abundance since you are not tied down to one person. The downside is that jealousy can be strong if one of the people involved start to feel neglected. While people may look at this form of a relationship as greedy. This would actually work with the theory that monogamy is not natural. You are able to love whoever your heart connects to without the thought of cheating or going against the norm.
If more than one partner is too much but monogamy still isn’t for you then you may be a “Moderate Monogamist” or “Monogamish”. Popular gay rights activist and “It Get’s Better” campaign co-creator Dan Savage made up this term to describe some gay relationships but I feel that this could also work for the heteros.
“writer Dan Savage, who coined the term monogamish to signify committed relationships in which the partners are, he explains, “mostly monogamous, but there’s a little allowance for the reality of desire for others and a variety of experiences and adventure and possibility.”
All of these lifestyles to me makes a lot of sense and this is why. I never believed in cheating being the sexual act itself but the lying that goes into hiding your infidelities. In each of these lifestyles the partner should be honest with you giving you a choice to participate in sharing or loving someone else. As long as you are practicing safe sex, keeping communication open, and living your truth is it wrong? Although we are told that marriage and love are supposed to be one way, that doesn’t necessarily make it your way. If you and your partner find yourself questioning the state of your relationship maybe you should look into other alternative ways to love.
SINGLE GIRL PROBLEMS!!!!! MARRIED MEN LOVE ME. Yep you read that right. Not just married men either. Men who are in committed relationships fancy me too. I have found other single ladies have this same dilemma themselves. Not a day goes by I don’t find a message or email from a married man asking to be my friend, while also describing what he wants to do to my lady parts. It’s an epidemic that I feel should be addresses. The Married Man(or Committed Man) and The Single Woman should never mix, yet they seem to come in contact more than not.
The Married Man looks at the single woman as a key to freedom. Most people get married with rose-colored glasses on thinking that they will finally be happy. Some get married hoping to find religious favor and a cure from cheating. Others get married because of father time ticking at their youth. Then they realize somewhere around 5 to 7 years into it that they really didn’t want this life. A married or committed man fantasizes the single life. The parties, the freedom, THE SEX! Somewhere along those daydreams they forget that they really didn’t have all of these things even when they were single.
I personally am not into sharing. If you are married or committed you are no longer a candidate in my eyes. I do believe in that old saying “the way you got him will be the way you lose him”. Plus if he will cheat on his wife why wouldn’t he cheat on me? What married men fail to see is that if they put the same energy that they put into wanting a single woman into their marriage they wouldn’t need to look outside their jouse for what they are missing. Married and committed men please remember your vows. It’s hard enough for us single ladies without having you pissing us off by hitting on us and having no shame in your cheating ways.
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Dear future loving,great,sexy,sweet,creative,goal driven,awesome, hell of a man husband,
I hope you’re doing well. Out in the world getting your life in order. I’m doing the same. the difference is before when I used to cry wondering why you weren’t around,thinking every guy could be you, I now no longer make my search for you my quest to be complete. That’s not to say I don’t want you around but now I understand that you will be an added bonus and not the thing that makes or breaks me. My life will go on rather I find you by the time I’m thirty like I “planned” or If I even find you. I no longer will run to the first man who says he loves me but be more grounded in who I am so only you will be able to approach me. I bet you feel the same way too. I’m finally enjoying life..my life..and the kick ass people I’m meeting and folks who have been here all along. I think my look for one soul mate blinded my view of the soul mates I have in family,friends,and of course God. I won’t fill my time with those who will only be a void filler for the sake of not being lonely but I’m also not sitting at home counting down your arrival. I have films to do, stories to write,and a legacy to create. I’m out here getting it! I know you are just as busy as me. So if our paths don’t cross immediately I’ll understand we both have things to take care of. But know when we meet we will be ready for each other so right now I’ll enjoy being me and you enjoy being you. When we do finally become one we will be unbreakable in our bond,bringing no baggage,insecurities, and drama to each others lives. We will be sure in who we are and its all because we know that we are a movement by ourselves yet a force when we are together. I love you
Your future sexy,funny,big boobied,swagtastic,ambitious, awesome hell of a woman Wife
Little girls are taught through fairy tales and fables what love is supposed to be. We are told that a prince charming will come riding on a white horse, take us away from being held captive by an evil witch or warlock, and whisk us into a happily ever after. So no wonder many girls grow into women with these same ideas. Women want the tall, dark,and handsome sensitive bad boy with a heart of gold to realize that he can’t live without you,change his bad boy ways, buy you the 5 carat diamond and give you the royal wedding treatment. Many women are working their ass off to get a ring and wedding that they forget what once the wedding is over…they have to be MARRIED!
Kim Kardashian filed for divorce from her husband Kris Humphries after 72 days of marriage. The couple wed in a lavish HUGE celebrity filled wedding on August 20. The wedding was straight out of a Disney movie. The budget was straight out of an US debt report. The wedding cost over 10 million dollars at a time when most people (nikki included) are trying to make a dollar out of 15 cent. Most if not all of the cost was taken care of by advertisers cashing in on the kardashian craze. Now 72 days later she will be heading back down an aisle…a courtroom aisle as she kicks Kris to the single again curb.
Is this what marriage is? People protest over same-sex couples getting hitched, yet we can let a reality TV star put on a spectacle of a show, claim its all for love, and we applaud that? In her official statement she claims it didn’t turn out the way she hoped. She has been married before so what where you expecting? I believe she wanted the wedding. Kim Kardashian wanted to show the world..and reggie bush..that she could get the dream that she so wanted. She has the smell of desperation all over her when it comes to marriage. She needs that validation that she is a good woman who any man should worship. Especially after having a sex tape seen by thousands, you want to gain some level of womanly respect back. And nothing says I’m a respectful woman like being a wife.(insert sarcasm) She planned this big ass wedding thinking this man will finally validate her. She wanted the wedding day high to last for the duration of the marriage. Sorry but to keep that feeling your going to have to get married everyday. Once the guest leave, and the open bar is gone its you and your spouse. Two individuals making a life together. Once you are married it’s no longer about you and your show, your business, and your family. It’s about only you two.I don’t see her being a selfless woman. There’s nothing wrong with being a little selfish when you are single, but in marriage that word has no place.
There are so many women who suffer from Kim Kardashian Syndrome. They put more effort in the guest list and seating chart than they do in the actual relationship. They love the “look at me” value of a wedding. They want to feel like a princess even if for a day. The reality is you should be more excited about having this man be your rock instead of the rock he puts on your finger. Be ecstatic about the committment you two are making. Take your vows seriously whether you say them in front of celebrities or a judge in a chamber. Marriage is much more than a wedding. Marriage is a firm committment to love, honor,and obey the person who makes your life better by being alive. It shouldn’t matter how much you spend or the color of the flowers. What matters is looking forward to a lifetime of joy and yes pain with your partner. Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever want to do. Marriage isn’t 72 days nor 100 years. True marriage, from a place of unconditional love is forever. That type of love is priceless.