Its’ Handled! No other phrase in television in the last 10 years has people,especially women, going crazy. Shonda Rimes is the Tony Montana of TV. Meaning she makes shows that get people addicted like they’re crackheads. The TV smash hit “Scandal” Starring Kerry Washington is Shonda’s latest drug that has taken over Thursday’s in America.
Everyone has a secret… and Olivia Pope has dedicated her life to protecting and defending the public images of the nation’s elite and keeping those secrets under wraps. Revered and feared at the same time, Olivia, a former communications director to the President of the United States, left the White House to open her own prominent crisis management firm. She is hoping to start a new chapter in her life—both professionally and personally—but she can’t seem to completely cut ties with her past. Slowly it becomes apparent that her dysfunctional staff, who specialize in fixing other people’s lives, can’t quite fix the ones closest at hand-their own. The creator and executive producers of Grey’s Anatomy and Private Practice delve into the behind-the-scenes machinations of a mesmerizing top crisis manager in ABC’s highly anticipated new drama, Scandal.
Oh and there is a small point they left out……SHE IS SLEEPING WITH THE PRESIDENT WHO IS MARRIED!
Sure the story lines, plots, and cases they fix are great, but we all come for OLIVIA AND FITZ! Women swoon for the lovelorn tryst of stolen kisses and sexy shower scenes. The way they argue and fight, how Olivia tries to resist him but like she knows, like we the viewers know, they need each other. Sounds like a modern-day Romeo and Juliet with adultery.
The shows popularity raises many questions? If you love the Olivia and fitzs cheating plot do you think cheating is ok in some instances? What does a black woman being a white man’s mistress bring up race relation issues? Yet there is a big question that many avoid but secretly are wondering. WHAT IF SCANDAL WAS REAL?
As angelic as the public romanized President Obama and First lady Michelle’s relationship, but even the dream team of black love has been dogged by cheating rumors. In fact miss Kerry Washington was embedded with her own Scandal surrounding president Obama during his 2012 campaign”[Ridiculous] Rumor Alert: Michelle Obama Bans Kerry Washington from The White House“. Kerry herself said that she would not have taken the role if the president was black. Why you ask?
Because people will take a tv show and start to believe that it is true. They will start to look at every woman who comes into the presidents path and try to decipher their relationship. President Obama could never be a Fitz’s because Fitzs gets to be human even while being a fictional character, Obama is our super negro.
President Obama has to carry the weight of being the FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT( well interracial) and cannot afford to have a Clinton kind of scandal. He could never recover from a cheating scandal and black people will come under a microscope as to why we have a high rate of infidelity, not looking at the situation as an individual case. Clinton cheats, he is a horny old man, Obama cheats, ALL BLACK MEN ARE LYING CHEATING DOGS AND BLACK PEOPLE CANNOT STAY FAITHFUL.
Is it true. No. Is that how society lumps black people. Yes. The cultural disaster a real “Scandal” would cause is of epic proportions.
Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation. The object or situation of interest is called the fetish, the person a fetishist who has a fetish for that object/situation.
We all have something sexual that turns us on. But deep down in the freaky pits of our sexuality we have that something extra on our sexual menu. Everyone has a fetish. Some are mild and some are what the hell, but each one makes for an interesting sex life.
Spanking isn’t just for kids. It’s a oldie but kinky in the fetish world. Erotic Spanking is taking corporal punishment with a paddle, or open palm with the intent of bring sexual excitement. Spanking can be incorporated into even the most vanilla of sex lives. If your partner isn’t the aggressive type, bring out that side of them by letting them spank you and see how it will give them more confidence to take the lead in the bedroom. Many people immediately hear spanking and think of childhood indiscretions and punishments. In an erotic setting you can be “bad” without the childhood stigmas.
If you still are having some hesitation I found a great video on how to being adding spanking into your sex nightly.
Beyonce Giselle Knowles Carter, hate her or love her, is THAT BITCH. I mean bitch in that “bad bitch” way that women tend to love. In her 32 (or 42 depending on who you ask) years on this planet she has amassed an array of achievements, hits, and successes. Not many entertainers can say they have sung for the president twice! She has a great career, millions of fans, an adorable child,and equally successful husband….and you secretly want ALL of that yourself don’t you??
She isn’t a super hero or a remarkably different person from you and me so why can’t you achieve the same life she has?
I can’t tell you how to get to the white house to sing for the president. I can’t tell you how to get millions of people to follow your every word and move. What I can tell you is how Beyonce got Jay Z to put a ring on it and the secrets to loving like The Carters.
Beyoncé is INTER dependent- She named her tour the Mrs Carter Tour to show that she is PROUD to be HIS wife. She is a very interdependent woman when it comes to her marriage. She isn’t going around trying to proclaim her “I don’t need a man”ness from Jay Z. She is embracing him and putting his love on top. A lot of women think it is weak to want to be all about your husband. Usually that type of thinking will leave you single. Be proud to be married, you picked him!
Beyonce is private- If you think you are going to see Beyoncé going off on twitter about how Jay Z is fucking up you are sadly mistaken. It took her damn near two years AFTER she was married to admit it. You have to have some privacy in your marriage to where you are not telling every single detail, be it good or bad.
Beyonce didn’t need Jay Z to become happy, he was the bonus- A man will not come and make your life non-shitty! Depending on your man picking abilities he may just make it worse. Beyonce had a career, a loving family, and had achieved a few of her own personal goals before jumping the broom. You need to have a life! Men love a woman who isn’t sitting around waiting to be chosen. A fulfilled woman is easier to love. She understands who she is,exhibits a healthy amount of confidence, and can enjoy her man not smother him with impossible standards of pleasing her.
Will following these steps have you singing and swinging your good lace front wig at the next super bowl….nope. What I want these tips to show you is that you have to be right FIRST. No amount of talent and sex appeal can make up for a woman who is not whole or at least getting to being whole within herself. When you feel the need to tell all of your relationship business usually comes from not being secure in your own decision-making and needing validation. Having to discredit your husband shows a woman who lacks the skill to sometimes not be the alpha in her relationship. We all know a woman who is seeking a man to complete her, when everything she needs to be complete is within the self.
Once you get right, you will get your MR RIGHT!
HELL DONE FROZE OVER?????
Chris Brown and Rihanna finally admitted what I already knew THEY ARE BACK TOGETHER! (click here to read it)
Am I surprised? Nope
If you really thought these two were done with each other. You are very gullible. I wouldn’t even be surprised if they have been together this whole time. They have this kinship that none of us will understand, SO WHY DO WE CARE??
That picture is why we care about their relationship. In this picture you don’t see a pop princess, you see a woman beaten. You see your friend. Some may see their mother or even worse themselves. Domestic abuse is a topic that affects so many women. To see someone of this status go through this brought light to a sensitive subject. You wonder why would someone as beautiful as Rihanna rekindle a romance with a man who not only made her face look like this but also made her face look like this for the world to see?
WE DON’T KNOW!
We don’t know what happen on that night or the nights leading up to that. We don’t know what was said, we don’t know who made the first hit. We are spectators in the sport called celebrity. We are so invested into our ‘stars” that we begin to think we know and own them. Seeing Rihanna back with Chris Brown triggers a hatred for not just Chris but all men who put their hands on women. Yet when did Chris Brown become the epitome of women beaters?
Rihanna returning back to Chris Brown was a slap in the face to women’s rights. Loving a woman beater is playing Russian roulette with your life. This man humiliated her and she still loves him? Little girls who are going through a similar situation are looking to Rihanna to show them the way. We wanted to make Rihanna the new “Tina Turner” and Chris Brown “Ike” so bad we forgot to see that maybe neither of them wanted to play those roles.
This relationship always made me question my own beliefs in love. On one hand I would never jeopardize my safety or sanity for another, yet forgiveness and unconditional love is something I personally champion. When does the need for love from another blur the lines of self-love? What does it say about Team Breezy and The Rihanna Navy who wanted them back together all along? If I like them as a couple does it mean I want women beaten up?
NO! I don’t know them. I know about them, but only from gossip blogs. Hitting a woman will forever be wrong. Hitting a man is equally wrong too. But me not caring about these two just means I have a thing called a life. Make your own personal decisions when it comes to your relationships. AND KEEP YOUR DAMN HANDS TO YOURSELF!
Threesomes have a way of proving that everything is better in abundance. More hands, more mouths, and more people to make you feel good. Many people don’t think a threesome can bring a couple closer together, yet when done right it can show you the strength in your relationship.
In my opinion we try to make love one way. Do you think that you can only love AND desire the person you are with right now? THAT’S BULLSHIT! It’s that kind of pressure that makes people flee from marriage. You will desire and find yourself sexually attracted to other people it is human nature. Threesomes help you embrace that attraction and work out those suppressed feelings of wanting to experience
There is a lot more emotional working involved in a threesome than most people understand. Your inviting the energy(physical and spiritual) of another person into your space that hopefully is already harmonized and in sync between you and your partner. Your relationship should be sitting firm on a foundation of friendship, mutual respect, and trust. Sadly most relationships are missing one of these. You bring another person in even if it is just for one night and your relationship is shitting it will show.
I have seen people have a threesome as a way to make their partner stay with them. I have seen people have a threesome and they only did it for the other person. Both of these reasons will cause more pain than pleasure.
If you have jealousy issues DO NOT HAVE A THREESOME!
If your watching TV with your partner and you say something about how cute (insert actors name here) and they get pissed, a threesome is not for you. There is no way you can bring someone else into your bed if your partner(or you) can’t deal with being pleased by another.
The lesson for today is….make sure your two is okay before making it a three.
I am a lesbian and I’ve been with my lady for over a year now. Sex with her is absolutely AMAZING! I’ve never really enjoyed sex until her and I’ve been with both sexes. Only 3 males and multiple females. My girlfriend says she’s never had an orgasm before and she also says she might have had one but doesn’t know. I told her if she’s had one she would know. She says that she doesn’t need one and it’s not important but I don’t believe that at all. She gets extremely turned on so I know she enjoys it and she gets wetter then I’ve ever seen anybody get. Every since she’s told me that I’ve been trying extremely hard to give her an orgasm but it hasn’t worked. I’ve tried EVERYTHING!!!!! Nothing is off limits. I’ve fulfilled every fantasy she’s ever had, well at least the ones she spoke on. I think it’s important to get an orgasm and very necessary. My question to you is, is having an orgasm really that important? I really want her to experience the filling because it’s feels soooooooo good…. I think that everyone should get an orgasm every time they have sex and if they don’t, it wasn’t good. I know if I don’t get an orgasm when I have sex I’m not satisfied at all… But she always seems satisfied even without it. I believe she enjoys it. I know she not faking. I’ve faked it enough to know when someone’s faking it. I need some kind kind of advice because I’ve gone beyond freeky for her and still no orgasm. I love to please and it turns me on more then anything anybody could ever do. I want her to have that body shaking, tingling, hot and crazy feeling that she gives me. And I’ve already told her how to make her body orgasm ready. I’ve told her to let her mind go blank, focus on the sensation, tense her pussy up and everything else. I want to know can you really be completely satisfied with sex if your not getting an orgasm out of it….. Or is something wrong with me and I’m wanting too much? By the way, I’m 22 and she’s 25 and she’s had sex with 12 more people then me. So she’s pretty much experienced everything from both sexes.
Throughout our sexual life we hae been tol that the only reason to have sex is to either make another human or to have an orgasm. If you fall outside of these guidelines then you shouldn’t even have sex because its no fun and useless. I am here to sy that is such a bunch of BS! Sex is way more than making babies or making toes curl. We put a lot of pressure on our partners when it comes to orgasms and it can create dysfunction in our bedroom.
Studies show that about 75% of women have never achieved orgasm though penertration, and as many as 10% have never achieved an orgasm at all. If a woman does orgasm there is no guareentee that she will orgasm everytime. So your girlfirend is not alone. Also understand that the orgasm is 80% mental. During times of stress or turmoil it will be harder to focus on accepting pleaasure. If there is past sexual trauma or negative ideals towards sex from upbringing that will be a big factor to.
Orgasms are a plus but they are not the only thing that makes sex great. Sex is about intimate connection. It’s about two peple coming together to make each other feel a deeper level of pleasure and excitement. Take the emphasis off of the experience of the Big O and enjoy the experience of your lover.
Yes I said it casual sex sucks. Some may find it odd that a woman who champions sexual freedom would not be a fan of casual sex. If it’s working for you then by all means continue to rock out with your genitals out, but for me it’s a lose situation.
I believe that sex is not just physical. It’s a mental,spiritual, and then physical act. To really have good sex the person should be invested into you and your character. Casual sex doesn’t give me any of that. How spiritual can you get with someone you just met at a happy hour?
I love to be sexually free and open meaning I don’t want to withhold my freakines. If I want to have sex with people watching I need a partner that is not going to judge me in any way. If I like having the bottom of my feet licked I want a partner who will at least try it with me. Casual sex brings apprehensions. You don’t know this persons body or personality enough to understand how to please them. Casual sex leads to awkward moments of you trying a bunch of techiques that may work and less than great sex. Even if you have sex with someone more than twice if there isn’t any personal investment into the well-being of each partner then the sex will fail to be spectacular. Yet when you are single, casual sex is bound to happen. How can you have great sex and still make it casual? Take your time to at least know the personality of the person you wan to make love to. If they are interested in you today they will still be interested in a few weeks from now. What if you two are not sexually compatible? You won’t find that out unless you pay attention to that person.
But if average sex is your thing than go right ahead and do everyone. I believe that sex should be a mind-blowing explosion every time and casual sex for me is just a spark.
Location: Oklahoma City, Ok
Occupation: Recording Artist/Philanthropist
Something fun that someone may not know about me: I rode a rollercoaster some 680 feet in the air, around Santa Maria’s Lookout Mountain, in Labadee, Hati
What I am looking for in a woman: I am looking for a woman who has a heart for people! I gentle spirited person with a hint of spice! I am looking for well-rounded open-minded woman who though may like what I like, but will at least try it! MOST IMPORTANT a woman who has a healthy relationship with Christ and loves GOD, meaning that she is a christian but also has great balance and wisdom for life.
Honesty, Trust and Loyalty are 3 must have’s to me!
What personal values and principles are the most important to you?
I would say the same as my marriage principles!
What is your favorite way to spend an evening during your workweek?
Relaxing online with my social group MOT!
Do you look at price tags when you shop? Or do you just get what you want and not worry about the price or getting a deal?
If I am going to shop, I am not worried too much about price If its something that I really want.
I am a Christian. I believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God, was born, died and rose again in 3 days and now sits at the right hand of the father. YES My wife has to be a believer of the same.
I am rarely EVER late! I hate being late!!!
Honesty and Trust. Honest about likes/dislikes/ do’s/don’ts, and Trust that they can make the adjustments.
Talking it out at the dinner table, face to face, with pen and pad in hand! Preparing to take notes from one another!
I am not needy, but I do love affection. My request for affection would call for my scalp scratched, back rubbed, massaged, her head laying on my chest etc.
I definitely need for her to be content with herself, a pleaser and open to try new things, within reason!
Releasing my very first album “Life Stories”
Not finishing college.
There were some things that I could have done better, however there were somethings that I did an awesome job of as well but over all I will say that WE failed.
At the end of the day, I would say my family. It’s hard to narrow it down to just one!
Random jokingly outburst! people watching!
Yes! My calling is to show people the Love of God in action as well as teach them strategies for better living!
Pure comedy AT ALL TIMES! Always clowning, laughing with and at people!
Not being FAIR to the new person by comparing them to the new person. and telling lies.
What I share being used against me at some point later down the road.
IF we are an item, then of course I expect them to view our relationship as practice for marriage, in the regard of being honest, developing friendship, setting realistic boundaries, grow together!
At peace with every area of your life, in the sense of feeling secure because the basics are secure and the extras are attainable options!
Yes. I believe that there at some point needs to be some balance.
To some degree Yes, but not any more than what I believe is normal.
I would like at the least 3 at the most 5! However I’m 30 with none, so that number may change!
With a lot of prayer and patience. I like to try to identify the source and then deal with the symptoms!
Once a small social site facebook has now turned into an essential piece of life. For better and most of the time for worse. Many times I log onto my facebook and cringe with the thought of what I might see. You might think it’s from the legions of sexually deprived men that love to send their anatomy into my inbox but that is no longer the case. Ladies are now getting into the facebook fuckery game. I wrote a post about the types of men you can find on your friends list and now its time I give women an eye opener. To the woman making a “duck face” in a dirty bathroom right now, this post is for you.