Every woman wants a man who will show her she is special and that she means the world to him. Why do you think men buy diamonds and pearls. Not because they like them but because it symbolizes love for a woman. We live in a society that says love is in the heart as well as the wallet. On valentines day you will see people lined up around the corner at Olive Garden When it comes to romance what are you doing to show your woman you love her? The recession is letting up but money is still a BIG issues. If you’re not getting money like 50 Cent here are some ways to make her feel special..for free
WASH HER HAIR-women LOVE to go to the salon for the simple reason of getting our hair wash. When your stylist starts massaging your scalp rubbing and scrubbing you damn near fall asleep in the chair. Make your woman’s night by running your fingers through her hair with some warm water and lather her up.( if she wears extensions or a weave make sure to help her take them out).
COOK HER DINNER AT HOME- Don’t think that you have to make a 7 coarse meal to show your woman she means a lot to you. Make a theme centered dinner around her fave foods or do a finger foods tasting of foods she hasn’t tried before. Women love a man who makes the effort to think outside the box. To make it even more special you can find cute table centerpieces at the dollar store.
GIVE HER A CATER TO YOU DAY- A woman is always busy handling life in and outside the house. But for one day take care of everything for her. Let her sit at home and DO NOTHING while you run the errands, take care of the kids(make sure to tell them not to ask mommy for anything that day), even tell friends and family that you are standing in for her that day so that she can really take the whole day off. For the lady always on the go this is a cost friendly way to make her feel special
HAVE AN ORAL MARATHON- Send the kids off to a sitter or a grandparent for the night because she is going to get LOUD. Give your lady a full night of nothing but oral sex. She is not allowed to do anything else but lay down and orgasm..over and over again. Incorporate different techniques such as foods,ice, or positions to make it creative. Do not stop until at least 5 hours has gone by. 15 minutes is not a marathon it’s a sprint.
Most of these idea require little to no money if you use what you already have at home. You don’t have to wait for a occasion to show your woman she is special to you. These free yet effective ideas can be done any day and will score you major points in your love life.
Pornography has been around since the dawn of man. If you go back in history you will see egyptian hieroglyphics on pyramid walls of a sexual nature. The first porn film was made in 1896. During the 1920′s porn was illegal and distributed underground. Once the counter-culture movement hit in the late 60′s and films such as Behind The Green Door and Deep Throat became mainstream, porn was surfacing into everyday american life. Fast forward to 2011 and porn is everywhere. Technology makes it to where you can find it and take it with you everywhere. I myself like to partake in the pornography viewing. It taps into the voyeur in us. The sounds and sights of people doing what some ( not me ) consider dirty is a turn on. What I also like to do is look in other people’s porn stash.
A person’s pornography says a lot about who they are. If someone is hiding something about their sexuality their porn will be a dead give away. With all the different genre’s there is a porn for everyone. We all have a straight girl/guy porn so that won’t tell you much. You have to dig deeper.
If you watch mostly penetration close-ups and anal: You tend to be aggressive when approaching the opposite sex. You want to be in control. You stay in the box but sometimes like to try something different but nothing to crazy.
If you watch mostly watch amateur porn: Foreplay isn’t something you go for seeing how production value in your porn isn’t needed. You don’t care if it’s shot on a handy cam and you can see the boom mic..just get to the sex as soon as possible. Your a get to the point type of person
If you watch mostly girl on girl: You crave pleasure in large amounts. You don’t do things in life in moderation. You’re a go hard or go home type who tends to want it all. Now If you mostly watch girl on girl with strap ons you may be bi curious or just wanting to explore role reversal with a woman.
If you watch mostly squirting or alternative porn: You never fit in with what society says is normal. You like to push the boundaries and buttons of people. You challenge the system.
If you watch mostly close up of oral sex being performed on a woman: You are a people pleaser. You want to make people happy at all times and don’t mind doing extra to do so.
If you say they don’t watch porn: You have a hidden folder on your computer file filled with fetish porn or something you can only get legally in Germany. You have a public personality yet a private life that you keep under wraps. You care about what others think of you.
Although I am no therapist so don’t come flooding my inbox with angry BS, I will say I am never wrong about these type things. Next time you’re at someone’s house and you want to know more about them, find that porn stash. If will either make you smile,make you cringe , or run like hell.
One of my True Loves sent me this question that many women tend to deal with. What to do when your sex drives start to differ?
I am attracted to my boyfriend but want to spice it up. How do I do the things he like even when I am not in the mood?
Many couples will deal with this problem once or many times in the relationship. It’s no secret that in today’s world we have deadlines,kids,and bills that distract us from even thinking about sexual pleasure. One partner may have that loving feeling, while the other may just have that sleepy feeling. Other times your partner may want to experiment and do something off the wall, yet you just want to do what works and that’s it. How do you find the time,energy, and even motivation to keep it fun and sexy? JUST DO IT! yep it’s that simple. I know we all get tired but to keep a sex life fresh and fun you must put in the effort. If your partner is wanting to try a new position do it. You will find that once you get started your desire will become greater. What will it hurt to try having sex standing up instead of lying down? Give him oral sex in a new position and actually see your energy level go up. Sometimes its the mundane that makes us tired or not in the mood not the act itself. If time is the issue then set time aside in advance for your sex. Sex in the shower is a great way to keep your morning routine yet start the day off right. At night when the kids go to bed that’s the perfect time to make love. Turn off the cell,computer,and tv and focus on pleasuring your partner. If schedules conflict try to have at least one-off day to spend with your partner.
What you don’t want to do is fall in the “I’m too tired” lane to often. Life is stressful yet that doesn’t mean we can use this as an excuse to ignore of partners sexual needs. When in a relationship you must remember that it’s not about you all the time. If you really are too tired to have sex at least compromise with performing another sex act with your lover. Believe it or not saying no repeatedly to your partners sexual advances affects more than their genitals. Sex is tied into one’s emotions too. We get into relationships to feel accepted and when we find ourselves being rejected we then begin looking for people or a person who accepts us. The saying what you won’t do the next person will is VERY true! Once the sex get’s going you will be glad you got it going
Kinky Kisses-Nikki True
A woman knows what a woman wants? In some instances I have been told that is the case. Now that’s not to say that a man can’t be just as in tune with a woman’s body as a woman would be. Yet there are some men who are stuck in their ways and that includes giving their ladies Ms. Kitty a lick. When we say eat it we don’t mean that literally. I have had some excellent oral stories( lawd the ones who eat you out for hours and NEVER come up for air) and then I have those oral stories that will make you go WTF(chewing..really guy). So to save some of you fellas from being embarrassed..or having your girl look for a more feminine touch I wanted to give you some tricks of the pussy eating trade that lesbians use to please their ladies ( and a couple I recommend) to give the best lady licker a run for her money.
FOREPLAY….NOT A MYTH- Men are usually ready for head at all given times. Church..ready for head! Funerals..ready for head! I’m even sure during the rapture there will be a man fighting the battle of heaven and hell yet ready to get some head! Women though are not as ready. We are turned on by the build-up..hence foreplay. We are sensory creatures. At least three of the 5 senses should be alert and stimulated before getting down to business. (Touch) her gently, massage her body with scented oils(smell), look into her eyes passionately(sight), whisper how bad you want to taste her (sound), lick(taste) her hot spots(nape of neck, ear lobe, outline her upper lips with your tongue) before going directly to her honey pot.
The Art Of The KISS- Kissing is one of the most intimate acts of sex. Women tend to understand that, men not so much. When performing oral sex on a woman never neglect to kiss her pussy. Soft little pecks on her labia majora (look to diagram to reference) and labia minora (again check the diagram) will get her juices flowing like you never would expect. Also kiss her inner thighs and belly for added enjoyment. To bring her clit out also kiss the hood and pull on it a little with your lips(no biting)!
How To Lick The Clit- Women understand the power of the clit. It may be small..but its a big factor when it comes to oral sex. Some men tend to forget that and give it two licks and then start shoving fingers inside you…major turn off. Make her clit happy and the rest is a piece of cake. One thing I think every man should know how to do is the tongue alphabet.
lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet starting with A and going all the way to Z and back again. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself. If you do it right she will come by the time you get to the letter Q. I suggest practicing this skill while board and watching TV. Another move that’s bound to make her reach new heights is “The Sucker”. Once her clit is at full arousal, draw it in with your lips and apply slight pressure at first in a sucking form. As she becomes wetter(trust she will) suck harder on her clit. With your lips wrapped around her button move your head up and down like your saying yes but continue sucking. She will also be saying YES YES in no time with these techniques.
Give Her The Finger(s)- Men get a one up on lesbians because they come with a penis for penetration, yet the lesbian has ten ways to penetrate and provide maximum pleasure. When giving oral don’t let your fingers go to waste. Use them to give her an added bonus to along with your mouth. One way is while licking her clit tickle her opening without fully going inside. Dip your finger in her wetness and rub it around her lips and thighs. Now when you do want to insert remember the spot..G SPOT!!! What is the G Spot you ask:
It is the bean-shaped, spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, which is analogous to the male prostate. The actual area is only about the size of a quarter, but it feels rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. Because the G-spot is composed of erectile tissue, it swells up when blood rushes to it — especially if you learn how to master the woman’s G-spot effectively.
It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. The “front” wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as her belly button.
Once you feel you have found it rub it back and forth in a “come here” type motion. I say give it about 3 rubs and she will be speechless. One technique that I personally like is to have my pussy spanked. When you get her clit erect slightly tap it a few times and apply a little pressure to it with your thumb. Repeat a few time and watch her beg for more. Also using your fingers gives your mouth and tongue a break so your jaw doesn’t get a cramp(yes it happens) but doesn’t stop the pleasure.
Most importantly remember it’s for her so ask her what she likes. Every woman is different so tailor your techniques and style to the woman who you are dealing with. Also remember the clit is VERY sensitive so teeth or any other aggressive behavior is frowned upon. We want to leave with our pussies in the same condition that we came in. And more than anything HAVE FUN! Treat her pussy as your playground and your tongue is on recess! Who needs the L Word! When you follow Nikki’s advice it will be all about The Man Show!
The name of the sex game is blow jobs. “Gimme Dat Becky”? what about Gimme That Keisha or Gimme that Tomieka? Nikki True has heard far and wide that when it comes to sucking dick..black women can do it but white women do it better! Now that offended dear Nikki because I can suck the nail out of a 2×4. I’m the High Priestess of Head, The “Obama” of BJ’s…Let’s face it when it comes to head im Michael and the rest of these broads are Tito. And I’m very much a chocolate sista! Yet I still hear that white women own it when it comes to the blow job department. Now I know my “True Love” sista’s are reading this thinking “this is some bullshit” but I dare you to ask your homeboy and watch him admit…WHITE GIRLS GIVE GREAT BLOW JOBS…..so I say if you can’t beat em…Join em! Nikki True is going to give you tips on how a black girl can give blow jobs like a white girl!!!!(and you white girls can learn something new too)
First and foremost blow jobs should not be a looked at as a chore. You really have to go into it with a positive attitude. No one wants a Debbie downer slobbing on his knob so next time your man ask you for some mouth loving don’t groan..moan! Even if your worn out tired smile and fake it til you make it. Next remember men are visual creatures. Look him straight in the eyes while you lick all over his Johnson. Lots of extra long tongue action, spit on that dick girl one of my Nikki True Tricks is to get a lot of spit then hold his dick a little from my mouth and let the spit slip off my tongue onto his head…they loooovvvveee that. I also have some more tips to get you sucking like a Becky in no time….
Now my True Loves I want my inbox flooding with thank you’s and stories of how you used these tips to have a happy hummer…