Threesomes have a way of proving that everything is better in abundance. More hands, more mouths, and more people to make you feel good. Many people don’t think a threesome can bring a couple closer together, yet when done right it can show you the strength in your relationship.
In my opinion we try to make love one way. Do you think that you can only love AND desire the person you are with right now? THAT’S BULLSHIT! It’s that kind of pressure that makes people flee from marriage. You will desire and find yourself sexually attracted to other people it is human nature. Threesomes help you embrace that attraction and work out those suppressed feelings of wanting to experience
There is a lot more emotional working involved in a threesome than most people understand. Your inviting the energy(physical and spiritual) of another person into your space that hopefully is already harmonized and in sync between you and your partner. Your relationship should be sitting firm on a foundation of friendship, mutual respect, and trust. Sadly most relationships are missing one of these. You bring another person in even if it is just for one night and your relationship is shitting it will show.
I have seen people have a threesome as a way to make their partner stay with them. I have seen people have a threesome and they only did it for the other person. Both of these reasons will cause more pain than pleasure.
If you have jealousy issues DO NOT HAVE A THREESOME!
If your watching TV with your partner and you say something about how cute (insert actors name here) and they get pissed, a threesome is not for you. There is no way you can bring someone else into your bed if your partner(or you) can’t deal with being pleased by another.
The lesson for today is….make sure your two is okay before making it a three.
Oklahoma City,OK October 1, 2012– Chrystal Martin had been through the dating pool and drowned. She was newly separated from a 10 year relationship which resulted in a 5 year marriage and was a mess when it came to dating and finding love. The problem wasn’t necessarily the men but herself. She had no self love and it was apparent from the first date. After stepping back and doing some personal deconstruction she discovered how to be happy in her own skin. Not only was she able to help others become more in tune with their sexuality through her blog “NikkiTrue.com”
First Comes me is the dating girls guide to become more self-assured and confident in who she is as a person so she can attract the right man or just start an awesome love with herself. The straight to the point ebook doesn’t tell you what you want to hear,but what you need to hear from a woman who has been there,done that, and survived to tell you the dos and don’ts. Many people say focus on you but leave it at that. First Comes me says focus on you and this is how you will do it.
“This was a really well written book and I learned a lot about how to apply various things to my life. I recommend that you purchase this because I feel this should be priced a lot higher” -Justice Wordlaw IV (http://justicewordlaw.com/
First Comes Me-The Guide To Falling In Love With Yourself” is available at Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/First-Me-The-Falling-Yourself-ebook/dp/B009ERPV3G
I like to play devils advocate every once in a while and Lupe Fiasco’s latest song “Bitch Bad” lets me do it. I saw the video and at first I was all about it. I started sharing the video on all my social media sites hoping people will watch and discuss. In the middle of posting like crazy I had a thought that has stayed with me since viewing Lupe’s work. Should a man tell a woman how to be a woman? Before I go into my rant watch below and then read on….
A woman in today’s world has many messages thrown at them on a daily. What to wear,what to eat, how to eat it, and where to be seen eating it so you can possibly meet a man. Now if you are a black woman those messages are glorified times two. Lupe’s message was to show how hip hop is warping the minds of the masses of what a woman by definition is, yet how can you tell another woman what the characteristics are? Through the video his meaning becomes lost seeing how he only gives us what a woman “isn’t” and does it with blackface without the satire. Instead it comes across as an “I am more enlightened” song than anything else. Nice beat though.
Who says what is a lady? Is womanhood given automatically by birth or does she earn the right to be called a woman? So if I listen to a certain song and dress a certain way i don’t deserve to get doors held open for me? It’s hard to not get offended when a man starts to tell me how I am not acting like a woman or lady. If as a woman I want to use “bitch” as a positive statement how does that make me less of a woman? I d understand the fact that many who use this term exhibit questionable behavior, yet not everyone. Excuse me sir can I see the receipt for your tampon purchase? What is that? You don’t buy tampons because you are not a woman? WELL DAMN! I commend Lupe on making us think, but not so much on making us think his way!
Mama’s baby, daddy’s too many? Does a man with multiple baby mothers make him a bad relationship choice? It’s no secret that the single mother rate is high so that means that there are single men with children in the dating pool. Some more than others. I notice a double standard in my years of dating. I find that a man will question the decision-making skills of a woman with more than 2 children. Men look at a woman with multiple kids as used goods or just a baby momma and nothing more. Women on the other hand seem to turn a blind eye to a man with not only multiple children, but multiple baby mothers.
When we start to date someone we usually only prepare for the good times and forever, not the bad times and temporary. When you only want the good in a relationship you will be more than likely to leave when things get bad or even mediocre. What does this have to do this multiple baby mothers? When you get in a relationship many start to plan a life together. A life that will include kids. So you have a child and all of a sudden you no longer feel the love for your partner. You break up but now you have a child from that relationship. Some years go by and you find yourself in love again and planning a future with your new-found soul mate, or so you think. She get’s pregnant and then you realize this isn’t going to work, but you now have another child from another failed relationship. You see how things can turn from one to many?
What if you are just a man who doesn’t like using condoms? You go from being single to now having 3 different women to answer to when it comes to how you are supporting your children. Now let’s say you have learned your lesson and you are ready to find a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. Should women be wary of you because not only would she be entering a relationship with you and your children but in a way also with your baby mothers. Here is why: when his kids are in your care you will be responsible for them. if anything goes wrong guess who is going to be your face? That child’s mother who may not like you just for the simple fact you got something she couldn’t get…a commitment from her child’s father. Maybe you are great with kids. that may not be enough to avoid baby momma drama. Now multiply that by however many baby mothers he may have and that can be a headache.
What if he is taking care of all of his kids, the mothers of his children all get along, and he is ready to commit to you? Do you pass on him because of some past situations? I would say it depends on his character and the way he is not only handling his situation but how he is dealing with you within that situation. Yes you should consider his past decisions but understand your not in love with his past but his present and that is what you look at. Do we all make some not so smart decisions in life and love of course. It’s how he is making his present work and his future better that matters.
Every woman wants a man who will show her she is special and that she means the world to him. Why do you think men buy diamonds and pearls. Not because they like them but because it symbolizes love for a woman. We live in a society that says love is in the heart as well as the wallet. On valentines day you will see people lined up around the corner at Olive Garden When it comes to romance what are you doing to show your woman you love her? The recession is letting up but money is still a BIG issues. If you’re not getting money like 50 Cent here are some ways to make her feel special..for free
WASH HER HAIR-women LOVE to go to the salon for the simple reason of getting our hair wash. When your stylist starts massaging your scalp rubbing and scrubbing you damn near fall asleep in the chair. Make your woman’s night by running your fingers through her hair with some warm water and lather her up.( if she wears extensions or a weave make sure to help her take them out).
COOK HER DINNER AT HOME- Don’t think that you have to make a 7 coarse meal to show your woman she means a lot to you. Make a theme centered dinner around her fave foods or do a finger foods tasting of foods she hasn’t tried before. Women love a man who makes the effort to think outside the box. To make it even more special you can find cute table centerpieces at the dollar store.
GIVE HER A CATER TO YOU DAY- A woman is always busy handling life in and outside the house. But for one day take care of everything for her. Let her sit at home and DO NOTHING while you run the errands, take care of the kids(make sure to tell them not to ask mommy for anything that day), even tell friends and family that you are standing in for her that day so that she can really take the whole day off. For the lady always on the go this is a cost friendly way to make her feel special
HAVE AN ORAL MARATHON- Send the kids off to a sitter or a grandparent for the night because she is going to get LOUD. Give your lady a full night of nothing but oral sex. She is not allowed to do anything else but lay down and orgasm..over and over again. Incorporate different techniques such as foods,ice, or positions to make it creative. Do not stop until at least 5 hours has gone by. 15 minutes is not a marathon it’s a sprint.
Most of these idea require little to no money if you use what you already have at home. You don’t have to wait for a occasion to show your woman she is special to you. These free yet effective ideas can be done any day and will score you major points in your love life.
When it comes to finding a mate gone are the days of your mom going and finding a friend of a friend who has a single son. The internet makes dating a lot easier AND a lot harder. It’s easier now because you can meet people from all over the world making your dating chances larger. The bad news is that you are meeting all kinds of people from all over the world. That raises some safety issues. If you are not a bar or club person yet want to find love then online dating may be something you need to consider.
First FACEBOOK,TWITTER,TUMBLR ARE NOT DATING SITES! Yes they are free but it’s not cute to use these sites to hook up. If you want to do online dating do it right. There are sites that are perfect for online dating that are free.
OKCupid- Free site that is easy to use and fun. You get to answer user-generated questions and that matches you to other people who answers match your own. They have a large data base and you can see who has viewed your profile.
Plenty Of Fish- Free and has the same premise of OkCupid. Does have a bigger dating base and goes into a longer list of questions.
Soul Singles- If your African American looking for a free dating site Soul Singles has you covered. Not as intense with the questions like OkCupid, but does ask some qualifying questions.
Now understand that there are online dating rules you need to follow. Always be honest. Using a photo from 10 years ago is very misleading. 3 recent photos including a headshot, a full body, and a candid shot is enough. Leave the nude photos out of your profile. You should tell and show who you are right now. Before giving out any personal information makes sure you have talked to your online buddy for a while and you feel comfortable with their conversations. If you do decide to meet someone in person make sure it is a public place and your loved ones know where you are going. Make sure your cell is charged and if you feel uncomfortable that you leave. When writing your about me section be witty and show your personality, but don’t write a novel. Don’t use text language or one word answers.
If you use common sense and follow my rules you will be may just find your mr/mrs right is just one profile click away.
This may come as a surprise but I am not good at first dates. I tend to over think the whole experience. What are they going to wear and what should I wear so we don’t clash? Will I fall while walking into the restaurant? why is he not as attractive to me anymore and how do I leave without looking like a an asshole? The first date is very crucial. Your impression or questions you ask on the first date say a lot about you. So that you don’t look like an idiot or an asshole like I usually do I will give you the 7 deadly first date sins.
Keep these 7 Deadly First Date Sins in mind when you step out for a good time. If you still need some more coaching Click Here!
SINGLE GIRL PROBLEMS!!!!! MARRIED MEN LOVE ME. Yep you read that right. Not just married men either. Men who are in committed relationships fancy me too. I have found other single ladies have this same dilemma themselves. Not a day goes by I don’t find a message or email from a married man asking to be my friend, while also describing what he wants to do to my lady parts. It’s an epidemic that I feel should be addresses. The Married Man(or Committed Man) and The Single Woman should never mix, yet they seem to come in contact more than not.
The Married Man looks at the single woman as a key to freedom. Most people get married with rose-colored glasses on thinking that they will finally be happy. Some get married hoping to find religious favor and a cure from cheating. Others get married because of father time ticking at their youth. Then they realize somewhere around 5 to 7 years into it that they really didn’t want this life. A married or committed man fantasizes the single life. The parties, the freedom, THE SEX! Somewhere along those daydreams they forget that they really didn’t have all of these things even when they were single.
I personally am not into sharing. If you are married or committed you are no longer a candidate in my eyes. I do believe in that old saying “the way you got him will be the way you lose him”. Plus if he will cheat on his wife why wouldn’t he cheat on me? What married men fail to see is that if they put the same energy that they put into wanting a single woman into their marriage they wouldn’t need to look outside their jouse for what they are missing. Married and committed men please remember your vows. It’s hard enough for us single ladies without having you pissing us off by hitting on us and having no shame in your cheating ways.
Ever wondered why night stands are a must in a bedroom? Well it’s not just for your socks! It’s a great place to keep your sexy toy stash! Many people ask me what toys, clothes,and other fun delights should they have tucked away in their nightstand to make for a fun sex life. The series Inside The Night-Stand Drawer will be giving you a review on the best items to add to your sexual menu with the help of the good people at California Exotic Novelties
Out of all the rabbits I have had the pleasure of reviewing this one is at the top of the list. The First Time Jack Rabbit is simple,sleek,and super sexy. if your new to the rabbit toys this is a perfect introduction. The First Time Jack Rabbit has 3 function buttons including a button to make the rotating beads go left or right. The vibrating clit ”bunny” stimulator has 3 different vibration patterns and are very powerful. I love the fact that it doesn’t have too many options which can be overwhelming at times. It also has an easy load battery pack and comes in pink or purple. Don’t think that this little toy can not provide great penetration, The First Time Jack Rabbit is thick and round. When I got this rabbit I was a little bit skeptical. But after coming very hard from the penetration alone I became a believer. What put this rabbit in a class of its own is that it is quiet which is rare with most rabbit vibes. Its waterproof so take this bunny with you for some bath time fun. I give this toy 5 out of 5 “Oh Faces”. Now if you want to experience what I did then go over to http://www.calexotics.com and purchase your very own..and tell em Nikki True sent you